Mind over matter

 Where did all the fun go

not bleeding in a book

or mapped to hook

It is out there

surfacing through fog

visible by Sun

Nowhere to go

Everywhere to start

Que sera, sera

(whatever will be, will be)

When I broke up with you

I didn't know what you were wearing. I didn't get to see your reaction, see your eyes part from mine, or even hear the change of tone in your voice. You denied all my calls for a few days and in the back of my mind I knew you were pushing me out, just like you had when you first broke my heart - when I  reluctantly pulled the truth out of you. It took months to get over that one night, but I was no longer that girl. I became bold and courageous to never be a doormat to anyone's feet, including yours, even when it was hard to not sway into self-pity. This must be my fault. Nevertheless, a few years later you moved back to California and we decided to no longer be so distant. At least I thought. Only a few days had already built up all the nerve I never let go and being misled that it would be different this time.

I decided to attend my friend’s party. She was selling a collaborative of items she made from scratch. Cela joined me and I let you know through a text of my whereabouts, even though I didn’t know yours. It had been months since I'd seen Emily’s face. As far as I knew, we lived completely different lives, but it always reminisced back to Jr. High (where we first met) that kept our kindred spirits aligned. It was nice to see her wide smile while I could barely manage a smirk. Not to be distracted by your ghostly presence, I kept my phone in my purse and mulled into all the conversations that haven’t happened in months between her and I. It was going rather well until she asked, “So how’s Sylvia?” It hadn’t occurred to me this would be asked. I had forgot Emily knew me long enough to have known Sylvia. It took my heart by surprise when the water in my eyes answered her question. When Sylvia passed away I didn’t cry. I came home from working at a pizza restaurant with new scars on my arms from the oven. My mom had phoned me during my last hour at work to tell me to come straight home. I knew then it was bad news. Once I arrived home the person who was most scarred was my father. He drunkenly murmured to me that Sylvia took her life and how he hated God for doing such a thing. By then I wasn’t sure of God, nor still unsure, but I knew to not blame a God for people’s actions. It was simply, yet roughly, her choice. I looked at Emily and while I didn’t expect to cry, or be overwhelmed by the thought, I explained what had happened. Frozen by my words, guests arrived to put the right energy back in place. This was a party, after all. It hadn’t eased my mind and I thought of the one person I wanted to call (my boyfriend) but realized I wasn’t part of his life the way I grieved for. After many missed calls from me, and ignored texts, I sent the last one I could possibly manage. How can we share happiness if we can’t share pain? “I don’t think we should be together.” Something along those lines, I had sent. Sad that it had to be delivered in a  hostile way, dishonoring our years of a fickle relationship. But I knew I was right when you instantly replied saying, “ok.”

The apology

The apology
fought me in the night
and treated my day
cracking the armor i succumb to make
the hopeless desire
to take back what you gave
days will add
to choices that’ve come in place

It is within a smile
these lines will share
this voice will never dim
to echoes left to spare

Undertow

My favorite thing to do has involuntarily become the hardest.

Write

So I’ll let my camera do the talking.

For blue skies

You can't be prepared for change, but you can accept it as it comes. For what it's worth, time makes you wiser but not without the consequences from mistakes. The chance that you may regret what cannot be undone would ultimately be missing the point all along. 

Why regret a choice you made? That's why the old folk say to think before you speak, to make decisions you're proud of, but I've never been a good listener. It's the impulsive, impatient blood that's rushed me from heartache to heartache. I wish for understanding and I wish to be humbled by all the madness I've built. I am so far from those days and still my memory brings me pain. 

You can't be prepared from hurting someone, and you can't be prepared for not getting hurt. It's inevitable. But respect, courtesy, honor - these should all be solid aspects for humanity. Without our word, what do we truly stand for? 

The root of this vague message I'm trying to spread is simply this: who are you at the end of the day, and if it's not someone you're certain of then I suggest when you wake up, try again. This life is all we're truly confirmed with, so take it all in, because we're all striving to make sense of something bigger than us, yet what we're so intently part of.

The Point Sometimes

"And you know that nothing lasts forever

and depending on the weather

I'm a changer "